Have you ever woken up with the feeling that it would just be “one of those days” and then magically it was? Your mind is a powerful thing. The language you use (both in thought and in word) affects not only your attitude, but your real life results as well.
In nearly sixteen years in business I’ve listened to a lot of clients sabotage themselves through their own words, then wonder why they weren’t successful at staying organized. Your words give clues to your beliefs. When you believe you’re a mess, guess what? You’re more likely to BE a mess.
Today I’ll share five things you say to yourself that keep you in a state of chaos. If you can become aware that you’re saying and thinking them, you can change your language and you can change your results.
1. “I don’t have time to...”
Bzzzt. The truth is you have time for whatever what you want. You may not have time for everything you want all at the same time, but when something is important enough, you can find the time. What you DON’T have time for are low priority items, drama, busywork, procrastination, and guilty obligations to others. Time is the ultimate level playing field. We all have the same amount of it and nobody can save it, invest it, or squirrel it away to give themselves an advantage.
2. “If I can’t see it, I can’t find it.”
Bzzzt. Nice try but no dice. Many people mistakenly believe that if they can’t see something, they won’t be able to find it. Let’s just debunk that myth right now. If that were true, you’d never be able to find your glassware, dishes, silverware or underwear. They all live behind doors or inside drawers yet you can find them every day. Truth: When things live in a consistent home you can find them over and over again, even when you can’t see them.
3. “If I just had more space...”
Bzzzt. Thanks for playing! You know what you’d do with more space? You’d fill it up. The problem isn’t that you have too little space, the problem is your mindset and habits that made you fill up the space you have. Decluttering more frequently, paying attention to what you bring home are two very simple ways to be happier in whatever space you have.
4. “If I get rid of things I’ll lose my special memories.”
Bzzzt. Try again. That may have been true in the days before photography and I’ll even grant you that in recent years, before digital photography was the norm, developing and storing printed pictures was just another thing to put on your to-do list. Ugh. But in 2014, you have the best of both worlds. You can get rid of your cake plate and keep it too! Digital photography allows you to preserve the memories of your most special items without the burden of having to store those items forever. In fact, one might argue that digital photos give new life and accessibility to treasures that would otherwise stay tucked away in boxes.
5. “I’ll never be an organized person.”
Bzzzt. Getting organized is an entirely different thing than being organized, sort of like the difference between losing weight and keeping it off. Losing weight is an event that results from repeating a specific set of actions. Keeping the weight off is the result of altering your mindset and habits long-term. Getting organized and being organized can both be accomplished but only in the same way long-term weight loss can be realized... by altering your mindset and daily habits.
You CAN simplify your life and be organized long term by changing your self-talk, verbal language and beliefs to create a happier, more organized life. What will you stop saying today?